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  • Jenny Paul Rothschild

Updated: Mar 13

It's so important, in this stressful time, to look after both the physical and mental health of yourself and others. Here are 3 tips to help keep you sane while you fight to keep yourself and others healthy.

Breathe/Meditate Set aside time each day, if not multiple times each day, to just deep breathe. If it helps, find a meditation app to guide you or use a You Tube video to play your favorite natural sounds in the background.

Talk to people

Especially if you are quarantine, self-quarantine, or social distancing, take time each day to call and/or FaceTime your favorite people. Maybe play an online game together. In 2020, you don't have to share physical space to share quality time. Call your Great Aunt Sally-- or finally teach your parents FaceTime. We're sure they'd love to hear from you ;)

Get plenty of sleep, water, and vitamins on board. Keep your body, brain, and immune system well-fed and strong. Get as close to a full night's sleep as your body will allow each and every night, hydrate if not over hydrate, and get your vitamins and minerals in, so you can operate at your best. And, if you do end up getting sick, your body is prepared as it possibly can be to fight infection quickly and successfully.

Stay strong, stay sane, stay well.

~The Adulting with Jane Team

So you don’t want to do it right now.

Totally. Maybe you really are waiting for some enthusiasm or energy to kick in. But the underlying question remains: if you don’t want to do right now, will you ever actually want to do to it later?

It’s definitely possible, as energy, fatigue, and and interest level can be major motivation factors, but truth be told, the answer could just be “no”.

With not enough time left to spare and your anxiety on overload, you’ll finally get it done by the skin of your teeth. Because you have to. Finally, it’s done! Success. But it’s not really the good kind. And now you’re tired and a little mad. Mad at the world. Mad at your boss for making you do the thing in the first place. And, at the bottom of that barrel, mad at yourself for not having met your own standard and done it sooner.

The good news is, it really doesn’t have to be this way. It still will once in a while— life happens— but on the whole, it doesn’t have to.

1. Create a final deadline and break it down with schedule of mini deadlines. It doesn’t have to be super picky or detailed. Write the deadlines down somewhere, and do your best to stick to each element of your timeline. *Life hack: Set your final deadline for a bigger project a day or two before it’s due so it’s done in plenty of time for any last minute issues that might arise. (It’s like setting your clock 5 mins fast.)

2. Use positive AND negative incentives. Positive incentives: If I tackle A today, I’ll treat myself to my favorite fancy coffee drink instead of plain coffee when I’m done or once I finish Project B, I’ll take a personal day and binge old movies on Disney+ in my pajamas. Negative incentives: I’m going to do B right now, so I don’t have to do A. It’s pretty much pitting procrastination against something else you don’t want to do. It works, but be careful not to do it all the time otherwise you’ll never get A done. Our brains are hardwired to respond to incentives. Use them to your advantage!

3. Take brain breaks. You’re not a robot. Get up and move around. Disconnect entirely for at least a few minutes each hour. You can even hop around a little bit to different projects to keep your interest peaked— as long as you hit your marks by the end of the day/work time.

4. Set clear boundaries for your work time AND your play time. If you feel like your play time is respected and protected, it makes committing during your work hours feel like much more of a choice and less of a burden. It also makes play time that much more fun, well earned, and guilt free!

5. Tell someone about your goals and bigger deadlines. Get them on the group calendar or send them to a friend or co-worker, and let people help keep you accountable. Other people are arguably the best support resource there is!

If you don’t want to get to it all at once, don’t stress. Just pick the one that seems the most doable and incorporate that one thing now.

*It’s worth noting the hard truth about procrastination here. Somewhere, deep down, you may not actually want to do the thing you’re tasked with doing, ever. If this is the case, dig deep and think about why. Is barreling through something(s) you don’t want to do worth it to serve a bigger goal? If it’s not, start thinking about what you can do to take steps toward making your current situation a desirable one or moving toward something you actually want to be doing. On the flip side, if it’s just something you have to do and aren’t/haven’t, then rip the band-aid and get it done!

  • Jenny Paul Rothschild

Please don't get us wrong, an authentic "I'm sorry" when you've actually caused harm or wrong to another person is entirely acceptable (and very much encouraged)! But, if you are one of those people that finds yourself apologizing for everything (even casually) more often than not, consider...

You are probably using "I'm sorry" as a polite entry point for conversation, but, by doing so, you are ever so subtly undermining your personal power and worth.

Why do we do this in the first place? Maybe we think we're being perceived as thoughtful or don't want to be rude, or, worse, we literally ARE sorry for taking up someone else's time and energy.

Every single time one of us utters the words "I'm sorry" when we didn't do anything wrong, we reinforce that any attention, even deserved attention granted us, is actually undeserved-- over and over again until they and our own brains actually start to believe it.

So, if you are one of those people that find yourself apologizing to the person that bumped into you on the street, to the waiter that brought you the wrong order in the first place, or to your boss for taking up his/her time to ask for a raise, STOP.

If you're now thinking "how?" or "I'm sorry, I really don't know how to stop saying I'm sorry..." try replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" as often as you can. You'll start to see this replacement is applicable far more frequently than seems logical, and more importantly, you'll find that you can get what you need from others more often with less struggle, gift a positive moment to the other person by expressing your gratitude for their attention, and, most importantly, start to fully realize and understand your personal value.